Why You Keep Attracting the Same Relationship Patterns

It’s Not “Just Your Type”… It’s Your Nervous System

If you keep attracting:

• emotionally unavailable partners

• partners who need “saving”

• partners who can't meet your needs

• relationships with the same arguments

• dynamics where you lose your voice

…it’s not randomness.

It’s your unconscious relational programming running the show.

Your body seeks what feels familiar — not what feels healthy.

And your familiar was shaped long before adulthood.

Why You Repeat Relationship Patterns

1. Your nervous system seeks what it knows

If chaos, inconsistency or walking on eggshells was your childhood norm…
your body may interpret that as safety.

2. Your inner child is leading your attraction

Your attractions are often trauma responses, not conscious choices.

3. Shame keeps you locked into “good girl” behaviour

Performing. Pleasing. Over-giving.
You bond through self-abandonment.

4. You’re drawn to opportunities to “fix” what hurt you

It’s an unconscious attempt to repair unmet childhood needs.

5. You haven’t yet healed the core wound

Until you address the somatic imprint — it repeats.

Not because you’re broken.
But because your body is trying to resolve the past.

How to Break the Cycle

1. Regulate before you relate

A regulated body chooses differently.

2. Identify your relational imprint

Anxious? Avoidant? Frozen? Hyper-independence?
Awareness shifts attraction patterns.

3. Reparent the part of you that’s choosing from fear

Your inner child needs safety, validation and consistency.

4. Build internal safety first

You attract on the level of your nervous system.

5. Learn embodied boundaries

Boundaries create new relationship realities.

You can attract differently when you feel differently

Your body tells your love story…
and your healing rewrites it.

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