Afraid to be your authentic self…
Of course we're afraid to step into our FULL, wild and authentic self.. there's a good fucking reason why we abandoned this in the first place...
I wanted to speak to this and NORMALISE this, if you are fearing stepping into your full authentic self, you are NOT alone my friend, I have been there and this is what I have been supporting women and couples with for the past 5 years now I've spoken about this in many of my trainings and I wanted to share it here too, if you are holding back from being in your full authenticity and expression, you are NOT alone, and it makes perfect sense when we look at this deeper
A baby comes into the world in its FULLNESS, AUTHENTICITY AND UNAPOLOGETIC AUTHENTIC EXPRESSION in all ways, they cry when they need to cry, laugh when they wanna laugh, poop when they need to poop, they haven't LEARNED to suppress themselves at this stage... here that again THEY HAVENT LEARNED
Yes, suppression is a learned behaviour, its a protection mechanism
So where did we learn this???
Yep, from those closest to us and then it was validated again and again and again through society, culture, peers and the media, and we see all the evidence that its not safe or OK to be ourselves and so it must be true
And now we have to UNLEARN this but how?
What I have found is that we learn this suppression in the early stages of life, we learned that if i am authentic and full expressed I wont be loved, accepted or belong, I'll be abandoned, rejected or cast out of the family/tribe/community, this is a life/death situation, as a child you rely on your caregivers for shelter, warmth, food, and all basic needs to be met
And so if you feel your authenticity will threaten your survival, those basic needs being met, including love and connection... you will abandon your authenticity to get these needs met.
And this pattern continues for years and years and years, cemented in your belief systems, patterns, habits, and it just becomes your norm, your familiar, and provides a false sense of safety
But there comes a time when it's time to shift this, when you feel the ache inside of yourself to come home.
And this is where the work begins.
Nervous system regulation, emotional regulation, inner child work, embodiment work...
THIS is where its at, this is what will shift everything and bring you home to yourself and your fullness...
I am so passionate about this work because it actually fucking works, I have experienced it myself over and over and over, and I have guided others through and seen the transformation over and over and over
And it can work for you to, I believe this with all my being, if you show up for yourself, say YES, find the mentor/coach that resonates, and DO THE WORK, you will not regret it, you will only wish you had begun sooner!
When was the best time to plant a tree???
20 years ago...
the next best time???
RIGHT NOW